Anyway, as to your question about being "born again":
It is simple ... and yet profound in its simplicity. It refers to the source of our true life: the Spirit of God in Christ. We had our identity in this world through Adam as we were born into this world, but now we have been born of the Spirit. Our new life was conceived by the Spirit within us. "Born again" is better translated "born from above" ... just like Jesus was. Our life is now Christ. We are now hid in HIM. The Spirit is IN us. Unfortunately, we have heard some really cool terms and have missed their simplicity because they have been used in religious contexts. We have come to think of "born again" meaning "making a decision to trust Christ". Notice, the word "Christ" is in the formula, but the real attention and meaning has been shifted to MY DECISION or ABILITY or LUCK to make a wise decision.
I hope that helps ... it may give rise to more questions, but that is what I love to do anyway!! :)